Just like anywhere else, there are always challenges that one faces when you interact with people. Even in the lifestyle there can be people who like nothing better than to tear someone apart. It amazes me that O/one can complain about the treatment people receive when an “outsider” learns of involvement in the lifestyle and then can ridicule and harass someone else for bringing up their views and opinions on the lifestyle. This is a broad lifestyle and there is no one way to live it.
There is no one way to be a Master or one way to be a slave. This is not a one size fit all life or lifestyle. Enjoy the diversity that this life can bring into your life. There are some great people in it.