Just What Kind of Property is a slave?

So often i hear of Masters that refer to their slave’s as property, which is fine and i agree with…but just what kind of property are They talking about.  So may refer to their slaves as being like a piece of furniture, a prized piece of jewelry, or a fancy sports car.  It’s those analogies that i personally have a problem with.  A slave is not an inanimate object, but a sentient being with thoughts and feelings.

A piece of furniture can be placed in a corner and forgotten about; jewelry placed in a box or drawer to hardly ever be seen or used…and that sports car can be placed in a garage rarely driven.  To those item no harm can come to them…there is no worry or concern for their mental well-being…they don’t have one.

A better analogy in my view…is that of a family pet.  Some pets have a job to do and tasks that must be done.  A pet is not always pleasing…sometimes they get into trouble.  Sometimes they think on their own **think of that prized mouse catch or the slobber filled slippers**.  If you place a pet away from interaction it will forget it’s place and the rules that it’s to live by.  A pet will get lonely, a pet will act out, a pet will feel hurt and sad, as well as, happy and playful.  A pet will have good days and bad, but no matter what..it’s still owned and it’s still just a pet. Most pets are prized for the place that they fill be that as a work animal or as a companion.  A pet can suffer neglect the same as a slave…not from intent, but simply by owners who didn’t understand the responsibility that comes with having one. Pets need reassurances in much the same way a slave does…they need to be told that they are good and loved.  And they need to be disciplined when they misbehave.

There are so many correlations between a slave and a pet, that i could go on and on, but i think that by now you have caught my meaning.

 

Sometimes you Just Need A Spanking

i know this may sound like a very odd title for me…the pain whimp, but it’s true. Sometimes, you just need a good spanking.  It hits that reset button in your mind.  It allows you to release all the pent up hurt and pain…it give you an outlet for it all.

Sometimes it’s just a necessity.  When hurt and pain build up and there is no release well i know personally…i want to hurt myself.  Only i dont trust myself to hurt me and not hurt me too badly.  But i trust my Master, i trust Him to hurt me…to allow me to release all the hurt and pain.  To allow me to trust Him to do that, what stronger proof of devotion and trust.

Spanking therapy…sounds funny but it’s true.  How many times as a child did you here that what you needed was a good spanking…and when it happened sure enough…the clouds cleared on your judgment.  Now, i’m not talking about abusive spankings cause that’s a horse of a different color entirely.  i’m talking about the attitude adjustments. And really does that need go away when we become adults…well, for some i’m sure it does. But right now, i need a good attitude adjustment.

i need to place myself in the hands of my Master.  i need to be helpless to Him.  i need to submit to His correction and i need Him to give me the spanking i well and truly not only deserve but need as well.  i need Him to give me that release from the pain and hurt.  i need Him to give me that mental reset.  To empty myself of everything, so that i can once again come back to a clean and clear perspective.

Do spankings still scare me? Yes, but they dont scare me as much as what i want to do to myself at times, and i certainly trust my Master more than i trust myself to do that.  Sometimes to let go of pain you have to experience pain.   Sometimes to let go of mental pain you need to experience that physical pain.  A good Master is going to know when those times are, and take care of the situation.  And sometimes, as a slave, you need to tell your Master that, as much as you may not want to admit it…that you NEED a good spanking.

 

Reflection

i think it’s important to always remember that we are a reflection of our Masters both online and off.  One should always think about how their words and actions reflect upon their Master.  i had the unfortunate experience recently of watching a slave be complete rude to an entire group of people, so much so that i had to wonder why she chose to be there.  She was not only being a poor reflection upon her Master but with the group she was with as well.  Then there is the rude behavior the flourishes online.  This behavior is often disguised and well “i’m just telling it like it is”.   i firmly believe in conveying one’s experiences especially when they differ from others as it gives a more broad view of the lifestyle and people can see just how different every relationship is from another; however, there is a tactful way to do so which is informative and non-confrontational.  Which do you think is a better reflection?

Another important thing to keep in mind when reading blogs around the net is the fact that they to are aware of the fact that their posts are also a reflection upon their Master.  It’s only natural for them to reflect their Master’s in a positive light.  Their words *including my own from time to time* sing the glowing praises of our Masters.   So i tend to focus on the good parts of our relationship, and not the frustrating ones.  While those in blog land might want to hear about the times that Master frustrates me so much i’d love to just shake Him; i don’t think that airing that ‘dirty laundry’ is appropriate or a good reflections.  That and there are many times when words written in frustration can and do cause more harm than good.

 

Catch Me

Who will be there to catch my fall? In a perfect world i would love to say that my Master will always catch me, but in the real world, that doesn’t always happen.  Ultimately, it’s up to the individual to catch themselves.  Master’s are wonderful and of course they try to be there for us as much as possible; however, they are human…they make mistakes…they let us down.  As my Master’s slave it’s my job to make His life easier and one of the ways that i do that is by being stable myself.

i think that it’s dangerous and unstable to rely on a Master as your anchor in this world.  They should be but one of the stone used to build the foundation of your life.  A keystone even, but there should be other things in place to help you maintain emotional and physical stability. i think the best Master’s teach their slave’s to find the stability within themselves.  Help their slave’s find that strength that’s within us, foster it, and watch it blossom into the strength to handle the things that life puts before us.

 

Quiet Grace

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

–Reinhold Niebuhr

There is something to be said for the ability to maintain a state of grace in turbulent and trying times.  It is something that i try very hard to maintain as i feel that that’s my job as my Master’s slave.  The world is a trying and turbulent place, it’s my place to maintain a peaceful atmosphere for my Master to rest and recharge His batteries.  One of the ways that i try to do this is to leave petty issues behind me.  Holding on to the stress of the day myself will only create an atmosphere of tension which doesn’t need to be in the home.  The home should be a sanctuary from the pressures and turbulence of the outside world.  A place to relax and be one’s self.

Fostering a quiet grace is not easy.  There are times when one wants to be petty, when things get to you that really shouldnt.  Things that you know you should just let go but can’t.  It’s at those times when it’s good to reflect on the things to stop and mediate; find that quiet place within yourself.

Just because a Master is suppose to have His emotions under control, doesn’t mean that it’s something that should be tested.  my job is to make things easier for my Master…and that includes not being a drain on His emotional and physical health. i always try to be a blessing and not a burden.  And if you are feeling as though you are a burden, look inward and reflect, change how you are so that you can become that blessing in your Master’s life.

 

Confession of the pain whimp

Okay okay i admit it. i like the flogger…okay more than like i LOVE it.  Now for those that know me, you all know that i’m a whimp when it comes to the ouchy things but curious as i am…i just had to know what a flogger felt like.  OMG, i think it was love at first swat.  Could this be my inner pain slut emerging through….well, lets not go quite that far yet.  But i could possibly see some more swats in my future.

Is it wrong to want to fall to my knees with the flogger in my hands and beg Master to swat my naked ass and pussy? I think about it often, fantasize day dream.  Wanting to feel that swat against my skin.  It’s a new feeling and want…and like a kid that’s been shown a cool new toy, i just cant get enough of it.

Who knows maybe a new love of nipple clamps and riding bats are on the horizon.  But for now, there is a definite love of the flogger.

 

Sub vs. Slave

i have seen this question posted in hundreds if not thousands of different places. i used to have a position on it, where a sub retained certain control over her life and a slave didn’t. Simplistic and down and dirty but the basics work. But my definition has changed a bit as i have grown in the lifestyle.

i am a slave, not because of some definition someone made but because that’s what my Master says i am. i have been told by other’s that such and such is not the actions of a slave or that some of my mannerisms where not slave like, and these statements would cause me great distress. But as i have grown in the lifestyle and in my life with my Master i have learned, although occasional setbacks arise that is doesn’t matter what others call me as long as my Master calls me His.

So call me a sub, a slave, even vanilla, it doesn’t really matter. Because the only name that matters is HIS, and as long as i am HIS, i am happy.

 

Wanted

 

Collar

I can’t tell you how many times a day I find myself touching my collar. It’s a habit now, good or bad, well…I think it’s a good thing. Whenever I am stressed, I find that I have my hand on my collar. It comforts me and reminds me of Master. And when I think about it, my collar is a lot like Master. I love to feel its weight upon me; it’s strong and secure; yet flexible as needed. It has its hard places, but it has its soft ones too. I love to feel it wrapped around me, just as I love to be wrapped up in Master. I never really thought about how similar it they were until today, but the more I think about my collar the more I realize how deeply I am His. So for me, my collar is more than a symbol of my submission to my Master, it is a representation of Master Himself. My strength, security, restraint, and my comfort, my Master is all these things and so much more.

 

Nipple Clamps

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Nipple clamps are a wonderful way to enhance a sexual encounter. There are many forms that people turn to. In my previous post, I mentioned one of the simplest and least expensive; the clothespin.

The sensitivity of one’s nipple varies from person-to-person. Some really love the feeling of having them “crushed” under the pressure of the clamp. Others are not so fond of this activity. It is important to experiment with your one to see where the limits fall.

If you enter any sex shop, you will find many different types of clamps available. If there is a BDSM section, the selection will be rather large. There are tweezer, Japanese clover, and forcep clamps. Not only are these available, but some have chains attached for increase pleasure. This offers the ability to lead him or her around via the clamps or connect to a collar. The choice you make will depend a great deal on your budget.

Spending a lot of money on clamps is not necessary. The clothespin offers an excellent example. You can also use hair pins or clips used on potato chip bags. These items are available at the local Dollar Store. In fact, most people have them laying around the house.

A final option is to head to your local home building center. Outside of the sex shop, this is a favorite of BDSMer. For clamps, there are a variety to choose from. If you are into extreme, alligator clamps found in the electrical section are inexpensive. One can also go for the vice clamps in the hardware section.

As you can see, there are lots of choices with nipple clamps. Whichever you choose, the idea is to stimulate the nipple so that it stands out proudly. Attach the clamp to it providing some pain for a short period of time. Once the nipple numbs up, you will be able to experiment in your play. For me, I find great pleasure in the removal of the clamps since the blood rushing back in causes a second way of pain (this is especially true with the alligator clamps).

A final note, remember not to leave the clamps on for too long. When participating in BDSM, it is critical to not cut off the blood flow to any part of the body for an extended period of time. This could result in injury.

reprinted with permission

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