Just What Kind of Property is a slave?

So often i hear of Masters that refer to their slave’s as property, which is fine and i agree with…but just what kind of property are They talking about.  So may refer to their slaves as being like a piece of furniture, a prized piece of jewelry, or a fancy sports car.  It’s those analogies that i personally have a problem with.  A slave is not an inanimate object, but a sentient being with thoughts and feelings.

A piece of furniture can be placed in a corner and forgotten about; jewelry placed in a box or drawer to hardly ever be seen or used…and that sports car can be placed in a garage rarely driven.  To those item no harm can come to them…there is no worry or concern for their mental well-being…they don’t have one.

A better analogy in my view…is that of a family pet.  Some pets have a job to do and tasks that must be done.  A pet is not always pleasing…sometimes they get into trouble.  Sometimes they think on their own **think of that prized mouse catch or the slobber filled slippers**.  If you place a pet away from interaction it will forget it’s place and the rules that it’s to live by.  A pet will get lonely, a pet will act out, a pet will feel hurt and sad, as well as, happy and playful.  A pet will have good days and bad, but no matter what..it’s still owned and it’s still just a pet. Most pets are prized for the place that they fill be that as a work animal or as a companion.  A pet can suffer neglect the same as a slave…not from intent, but simply by owners who didn’t understand the responsibility that comes with having one. Pets need reassurances in much the same way a slave does…they need to be told that they are good and loved.  And they need to be disciplined when they misbehave.

There are so many correlations between a slave and a pet, that i could go on and on, but i think that by now you have caught my meaning.

 

Sometimes you Just Need A Spanking

i know this may sound like a very odd title for me…the pain whimp, but it’s true. Sometimes, you just need a good spanking.  It hits that reset button in your mind.  It allows you to release all the pent up hurt and pain…it give you an outlet for it all.

Sometimes it’s just a necessity.  When hurt and pain build up and there is no release well i know personally…i want to hurt myself.  Only i dont trust myself to hurt me and not hurt me too badly.  But i trust my Master, i trust Him to hurt me…to allow me to release all the hurt and pain.  To allow me to trust Him to do that, what stronger proof of devotion and trust.

Spanking therapy…sounds funny but it’s true.  How many times as a child did you here that what you needed was a good spanking…and when it happened sure enough…the clouds cleared on your judgment.  Now, i’m not talking about abusive spankings cause that’s a horse of a different color entirely.  i’m talking about the attitude adjustments. And really does that need go away when we become adults…well, for some i’m sure it does. But right now, i need a good attitude adjustment.

i need to place myself in the hands of my Master.  i need to be helpless to Him.  i need to submit to His correction and i need Him to give me the spanking i well and truly not only deserve but need as well.  i need Him to give me that release from the pain and hurt.  i need Him to give me that mental reset.  To empty myself of everything, so that i can once again come back to a clean and clear perspective.

Do spankings still scare me? Yes, but they dont scare me as much as what i want to do to myself at times, and i certainly trust my Master more than i trust myself to do that.  Sometimes to let go of pain you have to experience pain.   Sometimes to let go of mental pain you need to experience that physical pain.  A good Master is going to know when those times are, and take care of the situation.  And sometimes, as a slave, you need to tell your Master that, as much as you may not want to admit it…that you NEED a good spanking.

 

Catch Me

Who will be there to catch my fall? In a perfect world i would love to say that my Master will always catch me, but in the real world, that doesn’t always happen.  Ultimately, it’s up to the individual to catch themselves.  Master’s are wonderful and of course they try to be there for us as much as possible; however, they are human…they make mistakes…they let us down.  As my Master’s slave it’s my job to make His life easier and one of the ways that i do that is by being stable myself.

i think that it’s dangerous and unstable to rely on a Master as your anchor in this world.  They should be but one of the stone used to build the foundation of your life.  A keystone even, but there should be other things in place to help you maintain emotional and physical stability. i think the best Master’s teach their slave’s to find the stability within themselves.  Help their slave’s find that strength that’s within us, foster it, and watch it blossom into the strength to handle the things that life puts before us.

 

Direction Of The Relationship

http://dennisnajee.wordpress.com/2008/08/21/direction-of-the-relationship/

A Master needs to have the inner strength to take control of the relationship while steering it in the direction that He wants it to go. Too many fail to take the responsibility associated with being a Master seriously. Leadership does have it’s price.

Most newbies are enamored with the idea of being in control. To have one do whatever He says is a fantasy. However, like all fantasies, reality tends to be a little different. The BDSM world is a great deal more than just whips and chains. The deeper that people get into the lifestyle, the more responsibility that comes along. This is magnified when a relationship is established.

What One’s responsibility? It starts with safety. This needs to be foremost one a Master/Dom’s mind. Even while He is enjoying the pleasure of a scene, it is up to Him to determine if things are proceeding safely or not. Many do not like to hear that if one is hurt, He is the One who is at fault. It is just too easy to want the control without the responsibility. Unfortunately, that is a fantasy and not how reality works.

 

A Night At The Farmhouse

The salesman stopped at a farmhouse one evening to ask for room and board for the night. The farmer told him there was no vacant room.
“I could let you sleep with my daughter,” the farmer said, “if you promise not to bother her.”
The salesman agreed. After a hearty supper, he was led to the room. He undressed in the dark, slipped into bed, and felt the farmer’s daughter at his side.
The next morning he asked for his bill.
“It’ll be just two dollars, since you had to share the bed,” the farmer said.
“Your daughter was very cold,” the salesman said.
“Yes, I know,” said the farmer. “We’re going to bury her today.”

 

The Facts Of Life

A little girl runs out to the backyard where her father is working, and asks him, “Daddy, what’s sex?”
Her father sits her down, and tells her all about the birds and the bees. He tells her about conception, sexual intercourse, sperms and eggs. He goes on to tell her about puberty, menstruation, erections, wet-dreams…and he thinks, what the hell, and goes on to tell her the works.
He covers a wide and varied assortment of sub topics and by the time he’s finished, his daughter is somewhat awestruck with this sudden influx of bizarre new knowledge. Her father finally asks: “So what did you want to know about sex for?”
“Oh, mommy said to tell you lunch would be ready in a couple of secs…”

 

Ever The Opportunist

One night a couple was lying in bed. The husband was feeling frisky so he rolled over and tapped his wife on the shoulder and started rubbing her arm. The wife turns over and says “I’m sorry honey, but I have a gynaecologist appointment tomorrow and I want to stay fresh.”
Rejected, the husband turns over and tries to sleep. A few minutes later he rolls over and whispers in her ear “Do you have a dentist appointment, too?”

 

The Yin and Yang of the M/s relationship

http://dennisnajee.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/the-yin-and-yang-of-the-ms-relationship/

Nature is one of balance.  Everything has its counterpart which allows for the natural flow of things.  For every yin, there is a yang.

The M/s relationship falls into this category.  We often refer to the power exchange as the basis of these relationships.  But, we also notice that each person compliments the other.  Individuals in this lifestyle tend to be at the far end of the spectrum.  We lean towards being absolute in terms of either domination or submissiveness.  The tendency to desire a split within ourselves is not common.

Each person in these relationships fulfills the other.  It is impossible to submit without having one to submit to.  Also, one cannot dominate unless there is someone to control.  When alone, each is an individual; when together there is fulfillment.

There is also a balance of power.  The total power exchange is done with the Western view of power-strength, aggression, and domination.  A submissive gives up this masculine form of power willingly.  However, she still retains the feminine power which includes adaptability, negotiation, and consensual submissiveness.  Goreans will recognize the two powers Norman described.  Each form of power lends itself to the fulfillment of the other.

Those of us in this lifestyle understand that it is not a one-sided relationship.  A slave who is not having her needs met will tend to wither and die (figuratively speaking).  Her value comes from her ability to serve her Master; it is also where her pleasure comes from.  Abusive Masters overlook this simple yet imperative concept.  The natural order of things necessitates both parts for success.

 

Unrealistic Expectations

http://dennisnajee.blogspot.com/2008/08/unrealistic-expectations.html

Of late we have referred to some of the expectations that people have when entering a M/s relationship. It seems that many believe this type of relationship is the solution to all their problems. It is common to find a new person who is truly submissive (or dominant) take to this lifestyle immediately. Years of failure in traditional relationships left them with a void. Finding the M/s way of life is like a homecoming to them. They realize where they belong.

However, as we have mentioned on a number of occasions, life does happen. All that others need to deal with arise in our lives. While the M/s foundation affects all areas of our existence, it is not the only area where we operate in. Everyday responsibilities must be attended to. Failure to acknowledge this is setting oneself up for disappointment.

A great deal of what we experience in any situation is directly tied to the expectations we have entering it. What are your expectations with your M/s relationship? Do you believe this is the solution to all your problems? If so, you might want to reconsider that idea. The same problems that one enters into this lifestyle with will still be prevalent after submitting. Life issues continue to exist. This cannot be stressed enough.

Having someone else involved in your life can help you to overcome certain difficulties. By submitting, many of the decisions are taken away from you. This can be a blessing if one is bad at making decisions. Financial circumstances can change since there is someone else helping with the bills. However, just because one submitted does not necessarily mean that all problems go away. To expect this is completely out of touch with reality.

To have a successful M/s relationship, and to avoid future disappointment, it is necessary to enter with a realistic idea of what will happen. This lifestyle does not solve all of one’s problems. It is a way of living which allows us to be true to our nature. We develop a manner of interacting with another which is based in a methodology which works for us. It is understood that the person we are dealing with is human and will make mistakes. We resist the temptation to put him or her on a pedestal.

A M/s relationship can be one of the most fulfilling interactions one ever had. To be successful at it, there is a lot of effort required by both parties. Remember this when you suddenly realize that this lifestyle did not magically solve all your problems. In fact, different problems will arise because you entered this relationship. Accepting that as the reality will better prepare one to handle the unenviable situations when they arise.

 

Doggy Style Variations

Two buddies were sharing drinks while discussing their wives. “Do you and your wife ever do it doggie style?” asked the one.
“Well, not exactly.” his friend replied, “she’s more into the trick dog aspect of it.”
“Oh, I see, kinky, huh?”
“Well, not exactly – I sit up and beg and she rolls over and plays dead.”