Just What Kind of Property is a slave?

So often i hear of Masters that refer to their slave’s as property, which is fine and i agree with…but just what kind of property are They talking about.  So may refer to their slaves as being like a piece of furniture, a prized piece of jewelry, or a fancy sports car.  It’s those analogies that i personally have a problem with.  A slave is not an inanimate object, but a sentient being with thoughts and feelings.

A piece of furniture can be placed in a corner and forgotten about; jewelry placed in a box or drawer to hardly ever be seen or used…and that sports car can be placed in a garage rarely driven.  To those item no harm can come to them…there is no worry or concern for their mental well-being…they don’t have one.

A better analogy in my view…is that of a family pet.  Some pets have a job to do and tasks that must be done.  A pet is not always pleasing…sometimes they get into trouble.  Sometimes they think on their own **think of that prized mouse catch or the slobber filled slippers**.  If you place a pet away from interaction it will forget it’s place and the rules that it’s to live by.  A pet will get lonely, a pet will act out, a pet will feel hurt and sad, as well as, happy and playful.  A pet will have good days and bad, but no matter what..it’s still owned and it’s still just a pet. Most pets are prized for the place that they fill be that as a work animal or as a companion.  A pet can suffer neglect the same as a slave…not from intent, but simply by owners who didn’t understand the responsibility that comes with having one. Pets need reassurances in much the same way a slave does…they need to be told that they are good and loved.  And they need to be disciplined when they misbehave.

There are so many correlations between a slave and a pet, that i could go on and on, but i think that by now you have caught my meaning.

 

Sometimes you Just Need A Spanking

i know this may sound like a very odd title for me…the pain whimp, but it’s true. Sometimes, you just need a good spanking.  It hits that reset button in your mind.  It allows you to release all the pent up hurt and pain…it give you an outlet for it all.

Sometimes it’s just a necessity.  When hurt and pain build up and there is no release well i know personally…i want to hurt myself.  Only i dont trust myself to hurt me and not hurt me too badly.  But i trust my Master, i trust Him to hurt me…to allow me to release all the hurt and pain.  To allow me to trust Him to do that, what stronger proof of devotion and trust.

Spanking therapy…sounds funny but it’s true.  How many times as a child did you here that what you needed was a good spanking…and when it happened sure enough…the clouds cleared on your judgment.  Now, i’m not talking about abusive spankings cause that’s a horse of a different color entirely.  i’m talking about the attitude adjustments. And really does that need go away when we become adults…well, for some i’m sure it does. But right now, i need a good attitude adjustment.

i need to place myself in the hands of my Master.  i need to be helpless to Him.  i need to submit to His correction and i need Him to give me the spanking i well and truly not only deserve but need as well.  i need Him to give me that release from the pain and hurt.  i need Him to give me that mental reset.  To empty myself of everything, so that i can once again come back to a clean and clear perspective.

Do spankings still scare me? Yes, but they dont scare me as much as what i want to do to myself at times, and i certainly trust my Master more than i trust myself to do that.  Sometimes to let go of pain you have to experience pain.   Sometimes to let go of mental pain you need to experience that physical pain.  A good Master is going to know when those times are, and take care of the situation.  And sometimes, as a slave, you need to tell your Master that, as much as you may not want to admit it…that you NEED a good spanking.

 

Seeing the Light

WOW, it’s been a rough year, but finally i’m starting to feel more like myself again.  i think i’ve had one of the most emotionally unstable periods of my life this last year *my poor Master*.  Thinking back i think it started with the loss of one of my friends although i didn’t really realize it until recently that that was the trigger.  She was like a sister to me…one of those sisters that you actually want to spend time with…not the one that drives you totally batty and you try to see only at family functions, like my flesh and blood sister that i haven’t even spoken to in 3 years, and it’s a good thing.  She was the friend i hung out with; she spent more time at my house than her own.  i miss her presence in my life even now.  i miss the popcorn fights her, my kids and i would get into watching some kids movie for the millionth time *Wizard of Oz (haven’t watched it since she’s been gone)*.  She was always there a presence in my life someone to do things with and share all that life was throwing at me.  Someone i could help and be there for as well.  i could just be me around, no judgements, no worrying about every word said or action done.  Her death struck a heavy blow in my life and it’s a lost that i will feel forever. Sadly, i tried to fill that void with my Master…wanting Him to take the place of my friend; although i didnt realize that’s what i was doing at the time.  But well, Master and my friend are about as different as night and day.  Don’t really see my Master getting into a popcorn fight…no matter how fun they maybe.  The thought of Him watching the Wizard of Oz is absolutely hilarious.  He is reserved and quite the opposite of my free spirited friend.

Then add a HUGE move of 2,500 miles and a major case of homesickness to the mix and you have one very unstable little slave.  i’ve probably always suffered from a mild form of depression for most of my life, but i’ve been too busy with work and life to ever really deal with it…i’ve just kept going.  Well, this last year, i’ve been a stay at home mommy.  Suddenly with too much thinking time and not having ’something’ to do the world started to close in on me.  Add other stresses of life and i have been spinning for the last year…all the way to a complete emotional breakdown.  my poor Master bless Him for His patience and understanding with me has been there through all my ups and downs and has never given up on me.

A few weeks ago, i went to the doctor about my anxiety.  At some point you just realize that it’s not something that you can pull yourself out of without some help.  i’ve been on the medication now for about 3weeks and shesh, do i want to kick myself for not getting on something sooner.  i’m starting to feel like myself again, balanced, stable and things aren’t so dire.  i’m back to being able to ‘not sweat the small stuff’ and it’s all small stuff.  i can handle all the affairs that i have to handle without it being an overwhelming obstacle.  People and things that were so big and were causing such havoc to my emotions and life now, well, are back in the perspective that they should have always stayed in.

i feel…liberated, and i’m sure that Master is enjoying the more calm and stable slave.  Everything is in it’s rightful place, including His slave.

 

Reflection

i think it’s important to always remember that we are a reflection of our Masters both online and off.  One should always think about how their words and actions reflect upon their Master.  i had the unfortunate experience recently of watching a slave be complete rude to an entire group of people, so much so that i had to wonder why she chose to be there.  She was not only being a poor reflection upon her Master but with the group she was with as well.  Then there is the rude behavior the flourishes online.  This behavior is often disguised and well “i’m just telling it like it is”.   i firmly believe in conveying one’s experiences especially when they differ from others as it gives a more broad view of the lifestyle and people can see just how different every relationship is from another; however, there is a tactful way to do so which is informative and non-confrontational.  Which do you think is a better reflection?

Another important thing to keep in mind when reading blogs around the net is the fact that they to are aware of the fact that their posts are also a reflection upon their Master.  It’s only natural for them to reflect their Master’s in a positive light.  Their words *including my own from time to time* sing the glowing praises of our Masters.   So i tend to focus on the good parts of our relationship, and not the frustrating ones.  While those in blog land might want to hear about the times that Master frustrates me so much i’d love to just shake Him; i don’t think that airing that ‘dirty laundry’ is appropriate or a good reflections.  That and there are many times when words written in frustration can and do cause more harm than good.

 

Catch Me

Who will be there to catch my fall? In a perfect world i would love to say that my Master will always catch me, but in the real world, that doesn’t always happen.  Ultimately, it’s up to the individual to catch themselves.  Master’s are wonderful and of course they try to be there for us as much as possible; however, they are human…they make mistakes…they let us down.  As my Master’s slave it’s my job to make His life easier and one of the ways that i do that is by being stable myself.

i think that it’s dangerous and unstable to rely on a Master as your anchor in this world.  They should be but one of the stone used to build the foundation of your life.  A keystone even, but there should be other things in place to help you maintain emotional and physical stability. i think the best Master’s teach their slave’s to find the stability within themselves.  Help their slave’s find that strength that’s within us, foster it, and watch it blossom into the strength to handle the things that life puts before us.

 

Quiet Grace

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

–Reinhold Niebuhr

There is something to be said for the ability to maintain a state of grace in turbulent and trying times.  It is something that i try very hard to maintain as i feel that that’s my job as my Master’s slave.  The world is a trying and turbulent place, it’s my place to maintain a peaceful atmosphere for my Master to rest and recharge His batteries.  One of the ways that i try to do this is to leave petty issues behind me.  Holding on to the stress of the day myself will only create an atmosphere of tension which doesn’t need to be in the home.  The home should be a sanctuary from the pressures and turbulence of the outside world.  A place to relax and be one’s self.

Fostering a quiet grace is not easy.  There are times when one wants to be petty, when things get to you that really shouldnt.  Things that you know you should just let go but can’t.  It’s at those times when it’s good to reflect on the things to stop and mediate; find that quiet place within yourself.

Just because a Master is suppose to have His emotions under control, doesn’t mean that it’s something that should be tested.  my job is to make things easier for my Master…and that includes not being a drain on His emotional and physical health. i always try to be a blessing and not a burden.  And if you are feeling as though you are a burden, look inward and reflect, change how you are so that you can become that blessing in your Master’s life.

 

Sub vs. Slave

i have seen this question posted in hundreds if not thousands of different places. i used to have a position on it, where a sub retained certain control over her life and a slave didn’t. Simplistic and down and dirty but the basics work. But my definition has changed a bit as i have grown in the lifestyle.

i am a slave, not because of some definition someone made but because that’s what my Master says i am. i have been told by other’s that such and such is not the actions of a slave or that some of my mannerisms where not slave like, and these statements would cause me great distress. But as i have grown in the lifestyle and in my life with my Master i have learned, although occasional setbacks arise that is doesn’t matter what others call me as long as my Master calls me His.

So call me a sub, a slave, even vanilla, it doesn’t really matter. Because the only name that matters is HIS, and as long as i am HIS, i am happy.

 

Is It Fighting Back…or…Letting Go

Daily we have issues and problems that are beyond our control. We are told to stand up and fight back. But what is this “thing” we are suppose to be fighting. It’s an entity that there is no really fighting. A one-sided struggle in which there is no winner. It’s a battle within ourselves that we fight. This struggle can lead to an overwhelming internal battle. This battle for me at times is intense and since it lacks an outward focus, I generally internalize everything. So why when I don’t like my life being so out of control, do I crave to give up what little control that I do have? I don’t really know but here are a few of my thoughts that come to mind.

I love being tied up. I think, don’t know, but think that it’s the ability to feel and struggle against an outside entity..ie the rope…which focuses my internal battle on an outward object in a safe manner that doesn’t harm anyone…least of all me. I think that it’s also the one time where it’s not so such giving up control, but giving into the fact that there is no control. It’s an illusion of the mind, and by letting go of that illusion if only for a time allows for the release of all the pent up emotions that have been internalized in that illusion of having things under control. I don’t know if that makes any sense but it’s just my thoughts.

And as I struggle with my own thoughts, emotions, and issues in my life and the more out of control that I feel the more that I crave that time when I am able to give into it and release everything. To let go of all illusions, and let’s face it…it’s a release in more than one way.

 

31 Things You Learn From Watching Porn

31 Things You Learn From Watching Porn

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1. Women wear high heels to bed.

2. Men are never impotent. No matter their age.

3. When going down on a woman 10 seconds is more than satisfactory.

4. If a woman gets busted masturbating by a strange man, she will not scream with embarrassment, but rather insist he have sex with her.

5. Women smile appreciatively when men splat them in the face with sperm.

6. Women enjoy having sex with ugly middle-aged men.

7. Women moan uncontrollably when giving a blow job.

8. Women always orgasm when men do.

9. A blow job will always get a woman off a speeding ticket.

10. All women are noisy fucks.

11. People in the 70’s couldn’t fuck unless there was a wild guitar solo in the background.

12. Those tits are real.

13. A common and enjoyable sexual practice for a man is to take his half-erect penis and slap it repeatedly on a woman’s butt.

14. Men always groan ‘OH YEAH’ when they cum.

15. If there is two of them they ‘high five’ each other. (and the girl isn’t disgusted!)

16. Double penetration makes women smile.

17. Asian men don’t exist.

18. If you come across a guy and his girlfriend having sex in the bushes the boyfriend won’t bash seven shades of shit out of you if you shove your cock in his girlfriend’s mouth.

19. There’s a plot.

20. When taking a woman from behind, a man can really excite a woman by giving her a gentle slap on the ass.

21. Nurses suck patients cocks.

22. Men always pull out.

23. When your girlfriend busts you getting head from her best friend, she’ll only be momentarily pissed off before fucking both of you.

24. Women never have headaches.

25. When a woman is sucking a man’s cock, it’s important for him to remind her to ’suck it’

26. Assholes are clean.

27. A man ejaculating on a woman’s butt is a satisfying result for all parties concerned.

28. Women always look pleasantly surprised when they open a man’s pants and find a cock there.

29. Men don’t have to beg.

30. When standing during a blow job, a man will always place one hand firmly on the back of the kneeling woman’s head and the other proudly on his hip.

31. Pigtails = handlebars

 

Direction Of The Relationship

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A Master needs to have the inner strength to take control of the relationship while steering it in the direction that He wants it to go. Too many fail to take the responsibility associated with being a Master seriously. Leadership does have it’s price.

Most newbies are enamored with the idea of being in control. To have one do whatever He says is a fantasy. However, like all fantasies, reality tends to be a little different. The BDSM world is a great deal more than just whips and chains. The deeper that people get into the lifestyle, the more responsibility that comes along. This is magnified when a relationship is established.

What One’s responsibility? It starts with safety. This needs to be foremost one a Master/Dom’s mind. Even while He is enjoying the pleasure of a scene, it is up to Him to determine if things are proceeding safely or not. Many do not like to hear that if one is hurt, He is the One who is at fault. It is just too easy to want the control without the responsibility. Unfortunately, that is a fantasy and not how reality works.